How rude!

Paola also got to meet (and hang with) an American superstar while learning about baseball = what America has to offer

Cruising the Oklahoma River while sipping on some local brews and listening to the best Zoo story ever - thank you Bob for a real home town tour of the heart of America

Paola had fantasies about experiencing America's justice system, and thankfully this is as close as she got. Given her mouth, this is surely a lucky thing

Oh you haven't been to Dinosaur, Colorado? T-Rex sends his best

More dinosaurs in Utah

Making Paola's dreams come quasi true with staying in a 'hotel' in the heart of America. We checked out the scary motel next door, but it even surpassed Paola's movie dreams of scary motels. She wanted a picture of this pool cause she kept telling me it reminded her of Melrose Place, ummm

If you haven't been to Nevada's high country desert, this is what it looks like for TEN hours

IN THE WORLD - NZed voice

Horseback riding in Lake Tahoe

'Dolly' our mustang about to take down Lombard St., SF

Big Sur, CA

Falling in love with both karaoke and American surfer Mike. First timer for Paola, and what song did she choose for her karaoke debut? Country road take me home, naturally.

Never knew someone could be so obsessed with marine mammals. I'm pretty sure I have more pictures on my camera (stolen by Paola) of seals and rocky coastline looking for otters than any other photos of this trip

DON'T DO IT! Immediately after crossing and seeing the line back, Paola tried to push back through the doors - she adapted to Mexican culture so quickly

In line to cross the border to get to the Follow the Mad concert

HOME! 

America, I love you more every time I come home

Yes, how rude of me for not posting for this long...... Suffice it to say that after I returned from vacation in Portugal, running in flip flops took on a whole new meaning as I was the most transient I've ever been. To give you the brief update - I rented a temporary apartment for September of a 60 year old German FAO worker (that I found via the internet) and kept all my stuff in storage (my home away from home Easybox) except what I had brought to Portgugal and one suitcase I had left at my office. A few highlights of said apartment - a shared garden with neighbors of an Italian 40yr old consultant and a Brazilian dance instructor,including many a shared garden party dinner with singalong guitar time; a more than fussy lock which I ended up having to replace during my short stay after being locked out twice for over an hour and bruising my finger while continuing to try to turn the lock; a wine cellar like no other which I happily helped myself to (with permission) to drown my homeless/jobless days. It served its purpose while I awaited news of a new contract and counted my savings to figure out how long I could live sans employment. A few highlights of living out of a (small) suitcase for six weeks - 1) you CAN go hiking in AllStars; 2) thank god summer in Rome lasts long into fall at least temperature wise, if not dresswise for the Italians. I may have looked out of place in my continued summer gear into October, but at least I wasn't cold; 3) Italy never ceases to surprise me with both the hassles it brings and the kindness of total strangers (temporary neighbors with my lock); 4) the ol story of the ant and the grasshopper really is true. Thank goodness I was an ant for all those months living in my college dorm style apartment and saving money for the long winter of FAO contract bureaucracy. It allowed me to keep my anxiety down and be patient while not having to ask anyone for help. Which, if you've learned anything from reading this blog, are three things I value very highly.

All ended well with me receiving a new contract (4 months) and finding a new more permanent apartment (Trastevere). I had accumulated quite a few unpaid days (6 weeks) since I continued to work sans contract, so I decided why not traverse the US as I like to do and yes, continue to not really work.
Since I like to continue to add new cultural adventures/challenges, I brought along my Italian colleague Paola (see blogposts about Sicily, Alberobello, and Sardegna for reference) who had never been to the U.S. to show her how good to-go coffees can be and other American luxuries like bagels, karaoke, muscled men, hormone pumped steaks, baseball, and cowboys.

As you've heard many times here, it's always a bit hard for me to come home and I always make it a whirlwind even when I talk about learning my lesson. And as you know I have a tendency to try and top even my own craziness. This time was no exception. The tour included two weeks with 10 cities, with planes, buses, bikes, canal boats, hiking boots, and automobile transport to get from NY to San Diego, including a (not as much as planned) brief foray into the promised land of Mexico, just to turn up the volume a bit on the cultural exchange.

A few highlights of going cross country with an Italian in tow:

English:  Italians by and large, unless they have an American family member, learn British English. Now there are a million reasons for why this makes sense (Italy is in Europe with England, more Brits than Americans in Italy (not proven, but told to me), and more British english teachers here); but frankly it bothers me (maybe cause I had to ESL my way through NZed lingo) and I'm on a singular quest to teach Italians American English. Paola speaks better English than most Italians I know, and yet there's certain phrases/vocabulary that do not translate to an American audience. Just as I had to learn NZ English as a second language, all you foreigners out there studying British English, be warned no one knows what a 'jumper' or 'trackies' are, and yes we do wear 'pants' to leave the house in, not just under our clothing. So a common theme of our trip was me trying to teach Paola American vocabulary while translating jumper for my friends and family, and her getting her knickers in a bunch over the fact that I was doing so. Calling all ESL teachers to Italy with hot American accents and rich vocabulary.

Hollywood: Paola had never been to the U.S. even though she's traveled through all of Europe and most of Africa because "she's already seen it in the movies and on TV". And yes a lot of Italians (and people throughout the world) feel the same - America is 'been there done that' without a foot in the country because they know Brandon Walsh and the street talk of the Wire. But she finally decided she wanted to see all the gun toting, overweight, hillbilly, Jersey Shore incarnates in person, with a particular zeal for sleeping in an actual MOTEL. I myself was left at a loss when we would be in various places and Paola would tell me some snippet or other about it because of a movie or show that I had no idea about. I was also personally challenged to remember as much pop culture as I could and impart, whivh you may all know that is far from my strong suit. So America if you want to reduce immigration, just contact Hollywood.

Rules: One of the things I love/hate about Italy is the lack of rules enforced, but this might also be a tribute to my lack of learning the rules that do exist (picture me on the road in Rome a la MarioKart).  While I often feel proud and think back favorably on our rules-following society (I mean at least we respect lines and don't get up before the plane stops), when traveling my own country and questioned about our own rules, I was at a real loss. A few questions maybe you are better at answering than me - Why do we have police who actually in-person chase cars versus only using cameras and speed trapping technology? If it's left up to states to decide about gambling/prostitution (Nevada) at the expense of federal transportation dollars, how does the state collect this income from said gambling and prostitution? Why can't you drink alcohol outside?

Temperature:  Having a range of cities and a coast to coast adventure in store, we both researched the weather forecast and saw all 65-75 degree temperatures (there you go Fahrenheit lovers/missers on this blog). And then Mother Nature (ahem, Climate Change) intervened and brought storms and abnormal weather to each place we visited, including the first snow in Denver and heat waves in San Diego. Everywhere we went people said, "It was so nice up until yesterday". It should also be said that Paola is from the North of Italy and yet still carries the gene of most Italians of feeling the cold far more than we do. The bane of Paola's visit was the US use of air conditioning combined with our reduced customer service on planes ("no, we only have blankets for first class"). Without doing a scientific experiment, I can now tell you for sure that if you want to torture an Italian, get them on a domestic flight in a short sleeve shirt.

Food: And yes it all comes back to food in the end with me and with an Italian. Paola became obsessed with bagels (rightly so) and I literally had to tear multiple bags of different flavored Doritos away from her. One thing that was awesome to witness was Paola ordering at various establishments. Example 1) in a NY deli requesting a toasted bagel with salmon and OLIVE OIL; Example 2) at Au Bon Pain ordering a cinnamon swirl bagel and asking for honey on it; Example 3) Asking gas stations for soy milk for her coffee; 4) Fresh squeezed lemonade at a baseball stadium. The best parts of all of this for me was 1) admiring Paola's tenacity. I'm always overwhelmed and confused in Italian establishments cause I don't know the rules so I just take what they give me and never request what isn't obvious. I am going to be more aggressive now about requesting avocado and asking for things to-go. 2) Knowing while Paola ordered that they weren't going to have it and simultaneously watching the confusion on the sales clerks face; 3) Realizing that there are certain things that you can't get in the US, even if we are the melting pot-land of opportunity: no breakfast bagel olive oil for you!

It was a whirlwind as always and even more so with foreign company, so for those of you I got to see, thank you for tolerating the tornado that I brought to you for my 24 hour visits, and for those of you I missed, be glad you missed the tornado of my arrival and I promise(?) to breeze through next time. To those of you that hosted us, I owe you not just for the bed but for the Americana that you brought big time with little notice (crabs, baseball, cowboys, cupcakes, hayrides, tacos, dinosaurs, etc.).

Lost in translation - Over my months here in September and being back, I've been speaking more Italian and feeling relatively happy with my progress. Like Spanish, I've learned Italian on the streets. Unlike Spanish, I've never had to use Italian for work and had exposure to professional Italian. I recently discovered that a lot of my 'new words' are actually quite rude/swear words. I don't even (rarely) swear in English so the fact that I have been unleashing my brutish vocabulary on the unsuspecting ears of Italians has truly horrified me. A few examples for you - 1) a word I thought meant gross and could be used in all company, is the equivalent of saying sucks or blows to a work colleague; 2) a word I thought meant rude, actually means as#$$$%le; 3) I thought Scusa was the formal way of saying excuse me, when in fact it's Scusi and I've been offending elderly people right and left; 4) I wanted to tell friends that it was amazing and unbelievable in a 'this is really happening to you' sort of way and I said 'ridiculo' which in Italian translates as you don't deserve what's happening to you. So I'm committed to digging myself out of the Italian gutter of language I've picked up and becoming a refined Italian regazza so I can rejoin polite society again and not make Italians think we're all incarnates of the Jersey Shore.

Coming soon - my new digs and nesting in Trastevere; a US election in Italy; and Halloween Italian style

All Grownsd Up

How lucky can one lady be to have these PortuGALs as best buddies. It's that time of year again where I got to take another adventure with some of the loveliest ladies I know.....and here's a bit on how things have changed and stayed the same since our last adventure.......

Pyramids check and double check, as we age the only thing to worry about is our knees

All Grown Up and still pointing at the few pairs of raw boobs we could see in Ericeira

All Grown Up and still posing like statues

Grown Up wine tasting = appreciating port in the Douro Valley

Thumbs up or the Peace Sign is for babies. Mature photo move = jazz hands

Grown Up = scholarly times on vacation. Knocking down the doors of one of Europe's oldest Universities 

A mature moment of scholarly thought

Boogie boarding, nah, grown ups surf

Any vacation where you spend most of your time in matching robes means you've finally arrived

More than impressed with Portugal's food, even when I couldn't understand the menu and just guessed

Never too old to frolic OR high five, next sign of maturity is a jazz hand frolic

Maturity - understanding that sometimes you miss. I missed the Olympics and these ladies helped me celebrate the red, white and blue with a tribute while showing Douro that while we might be PortuGALs, American pride runs deep 

Exercising while wine tasting = mature multi-tasking

Kayaking while drinking out of a bottle in bubble wrap - I'll leave that up to you to answer

I should have mentioned that we had an extra buddy join our journey this year even if she has always been with us in spirit....and yes it's extremely mature to travel with cut-outs of a celebrity 'friend'. 

The last three days Courtney and I basically exemplified being on vacation at 31 - we ate gelato, read our books, talked about our books, soaked up sun and sea and sand, played darts with 23 year old Canadians, and revisited our hopes and dreams. 

My Mom on her 60th birthday told me that every decade has gotten better than the last, and I can not help but agree with friends like these. Looking forward to all the coming adventures PortuGALs

If you asked me ten years ago, what I thought I would be doing in the August of my 31st year, I could have never imagined what is my reality. I've said it countless times here on this blog, but it needs said again - I am one lucky girl. Lucky not only to have great friends, but that somehow we are still having so much fun. Here's a few of the highlights of our latest adventure in Portugal......

Maturity:  While sometimes I have moments of 'what am I doing with my life' especially as baby and wedding photos abound Fbook, I am soothed by the fact that I have awesome friends thinking the same thing. One year ago I wrote about how we were 30 years old and still making up dances in foreign countries and I promised you that in a year's time we would still be doing the same - well, I have some progress for you. This year we did not make up dances, but instead made a music video on bicycles. How's that for age related milestones? We made a friend our second day in Portugal who asked what hostel we were staying at, and our joint 31 year old cringe was probably visible. Yet our luxurious B&B was only slightly more expensive than said hostel - strategic and comfortable = we've arrived. And in all seriousness, this trip to Portugal made me feel like a real adult even if I'm not married or with child (other than my dear food baby that I fed healthily on this trip). We combined party time with sports and fear factoring, and education and history with statue posing, and port tasting with robe relaxing. When I think of where I'd like to be at 31, there's no better combination I can think of.

Friends:  This is the longest in my 2.5 years away that I have gone without seeing friends from the US or going to the US, and even with the miles and the time passing, one thing that is so refreshing about old (in time not in age;)) friends is their ability to call you out and make you accountable for how you're acting. I don't get enough of that these days and sometimes I worry that I'm lost in a maze in my head without any signposts or wake-up calls that can come from those near and dear. And in true maturity, there were a few 'hot flashes' on this trip, including one of my own where I threw a tantrum for being hot in a restaurant or another where I couldn't hang for fireworks, and two other unnamed people's tantrums when the Fado and veal weren't up to par. You know you can travel anywhere with people when those are the fights/drama that you're having. Thank you friends for a perfect combination of pensive deep convos, laughter and dancing, sports and silliness, and quiet relaxation. And I need to say a special thank you to Stephanie for seriously planning our whole trip AND bringing a celebrity guest. Next time I promise IGYG

Portugal:  As I warned you, we decided on Portugal in a haze of ham, cheese, castles, and topless surfing. In reality, I didn't actually care where we went, I just wanted to hang with these ladies. And in even more real reality, I had no time to really research Portugal given my crazy life of late, and at the same time I just expected it to be similar to Italy and Spain. So I arrived with little expectation for the place, and more excited for the adventure, and Portugal surprised me at every turn. 1st) The food:  again no expectation and yet their bread is amazing (spongy and grainy at the same time), the seafood is ridiculous (barnacles anyone), and don't get me started on the ginginha. We had countless amazing meals, some in rustic places and some in smancy places and the overwhelming feeling throughout was 'really? portugal?' 2) I've never really cared for port or known anything about Portuguese wines, so again I wasn't expecting much, and I can now tell you that port is to be appreciated, mostly in a robe or while listening to fado. 3) Bathrooms:  So impressed, which is partly a testament to living in Italy and partly a testament to Portugal. In Italy it is near impossible to find the trifecta (soap, toilet paper, and a seat), but in Portugal even gas stations have nice bathrooms and I kept thinking for how much Italians pride themselves on grooming and cleanliness they could learn a thing or two from a Portuguese bathroom. 4) Kindness: I had listened to a Rick Steve's podcast (some of the only prep I did for this trip while lounging at the pool) which had said how kind Portuguese people are, but I was figuring that it was a bit of Rick's typical exaggeration station, when in fact it was over and above what Rick described. One example is when you ask for directions - instead of telling you how to get there, the person walks you there. Or example two, our waiter who kindly made of fool of himself while acting out the head, shoulders, knees and toes dance in the middle of the street to our endless enjoyment. 5) Quaint and hip: Are my best words to describe Portugal. It's a bit of an awesome mixture of undiscovered and artsy/edgy, combined with simple charm.  Lisbon is like San Francisco except less expensive, less polished, and a bit edgier/artsier  = get there before it becomes another Madrid.  Did I mention that we went to a club with a library inside it? You had me at Bom dia Portugal. 6) Language:  Again I did not prepare for this trip, and when I landed I was a bit confounded on whether to speak Spanish or English, and in the end it was a bit of both. We were impressed with how easy it was to get around with English and in those few spots where we were stuck I relied on my Portanol and other than with a cab driver who was eating marbles, it seemed to work. All in all, Portugal was a perfect soft and cozy landing with unexpected delights in a time that I really needed it. So Obrigada, Portugal, you were more than I could have ever imagined

So in a life that keeps surpassing my expectations, I can only attribute it to great friends, maturing, and clean bathrooms

Running in Flip Flops

Lately my life has taken a bit of a tailspin........culminating today in moving in a Mercedes. All I can say (well not all, as you'll see below) is that things keep getting funnier.....

My 'moving van' after off-roading it to a few of Italy's finest dangerous lakes

Jobless and Payless:  I mentioned in my last post (but to catch those of you up that didn't read....) that upon my return from Sierra Leone I found myself unemployed. I found out that this could be a possibility while in SL when I received an email from my boss telling me that HR was blocking my contract renewal suggesting that they would be happy to renew my contract at a rate of 30% less than my starting salary with FAO - and so the hilarity began. During those brutal days in SL I thought to myself, you know what? I wouldn't mind if they can't figure this out in time (Aug 1st) because frankly I'd love some time off, but I didn't ACTUALLY think this battle would still be going on a month later. To add to the laughs, both my paycheck for the month of July and my travel reimbursement from my expenses of over a month in SL are tied up in this contract closure/renewal mess.  And yes, like the true ending hunger soldier that I am, I have continued to go to work since August 1st with the hope that one day all these laughs will turn into cold hard cash, or at the very least future vacation days......

All my worldly belongings, packed up once again

I am accumulating a dangerous amount of belongings if I'm ever going to move back on a plane again.

Homeless:  While the above sounds like a real pain, I've gotten used to FAO's absurdity and was enjoying the fact that I didn't actually have to go to work each day (even though I did). When I got back from SL I was also informed by my landlord that I could stay in my apartment until November - woo hoo! great news especially since it's so cheap.  Flash forward to one week ago when she informed me that actually her son (my former boyfriend, this is cause for a break-up) wanted it back and that I would have to move out within the week. If you've ever pondered moving from a 4th floor apartment with no elevator in the middle of August in Rome, let me tell you it's not very funny. When I received said news from my landlord, I had a momentary freak out which I decided could only be helped by a run up to my happy place the Gianiculum. In my haste to destress, I left the house in what I was wearing - jean shorts and flips flops. If you've ever pondered running up 150 stairs in sweaty flip flops - I will tell you it is kind of funny, especially as you pass puzzled tourists, until you get planter fasciitus as a result. No, that's not an STD, it's basically a stressed ligament in your foot that makes it painful to walk. Also known as an excellent factor in trying to move your 45 kilo suitcases down 4 flights. And while I often like to think I can tackle the world, Paola stepped in and refused to let me contemplate this on my own by lending me a small latino man who did all my lifting for just 30 euro. I should mention my move out day also coincides with the biggest holiday of the year in Italy - Ferragosto, where everything and I mean everything (even rental car companies) shut down.  Luckily I had reserved a car when I got the news from my landlord so there were still some left to pick up the day before they all closed, until I arrived one hour late and they had canceled my reservation. Frantically going to every company, and them all saying "Niente, mi dispiace", I finally found Hertz who had only "big" cars left so I said perfect since I need it to move, even though I wasn't laughing at the price.  "Big" actually meant a Mercedes, which threw me into a fit of giggles. And if you're not laughing yet, please picture this - Me limping, directing a small latino to carry my suitcases and bags and bags of somehow accumulated items down four stories in 104 degree heat to my Mercedes. When he showed up he said - wait, you're going to move in this? Yep, it's 'big' enough don't you think? Ok, if you're really not laughing yet, try this - where am I moving you might ask? Since I have no job I figured I couldn't really sign up for a new apartment, so I'll be moving back into my 1 sq.meter cube, also known as EasyBox, and heading to Portugal to really laugh it up with my besties........When I showed up at EasyBox, my buddies there were so excited that I was back that I truly felt home. *Note: I am ONLY moving in Mercedes now, it just makes the whole experience so much more enjoyable

First dangerous lake up - Bracciano, in honor of Katie and Tom's nuptials years ago. Since I have no tv and hardly a moment to even read the news these days I didn't know they were getting a divorce until we arrived at the lake. That's how I get my news these days - word of mouth

Trevignano, doesn't look so dangerous does it.....but then again you can't see the dangerous mud lurking beneath

We're in the middle, right near the 'vortex'!

Ready to take the first plunge, toes crossed

Ahhhhh, the vortex, the mud, the wind!!!!

Serious time - I Laghi Pericolissimi d'Italia:  Ok enough with all those laughs, the bonus of my extra 'time off' is time to pursue my ongoing research into Italy's dangerous lakes. As I mentioned back in May, Italians have this odd (at least to me, hence said upcoming research) fear of swimming in lakes. For those of you who haven't been reading, ask any Italian if they think lakes or the sea is more dangerous and they will always say lakes. Their reasons include (in order of popularity) - 1) the vortex that sucks you down since the lakes are volcanic and naturally they thus must suck you into the 'former' crater; 2) the very dangerous mud as you enter the lake, which can also suck you down; 3) how people think they can swim across them whereas they would never try to swim across the sea; 4) you can not eat and then go swimming in a lake because the cold water will stop your digestion and kill you instantly; 5) and lastly they site the yearly statistics of how many more people die in lakes than in the sea. I have done my own literature review trying to see if it's just Italy's lakes that have this vortex or if all volcanic likes might have it and surprise - I have not been able to verify that volcanic lakes have a vortex. As far as the statistics,  while told that a Dutch windsurfer recently drowned in Lago di Como, I have not been able to confirm the comparison between sea and lake deaths in Italy. So with all that unconfirmation I figured it was time for some field research.....This past week I went to three of Italy's dangerous lakes - Bracciano (site of Katie and Toms wedding), Martignano (you have to park 4km away, now that is dangerous), and Trevignano (my winner, for cuteness) and I SWAM in all of them. I even ate a huge porchetta sandwich and then went in - GASP, I'm alive. A few findings I'd like to share from my field research - 1) After all those dangers listed, no one warned me about the dangerous Italian pirates on paddleboats in the water. Laura and I were chased by not one, but two pirate paddleboats full of young men, until they finally overtook us and BUMPED our boat. Laura remarked how there seemed to be a lot of aggressive males at the lake. I informed her that she didn't go out enough without her husband and that in fact this is the case in all of Italy. (side note, don't worry we escaped the pirates by pretending not to speak Italian, gets pirates every time).  2) When we tried to venture into the middle of Lake Bracciano with our paddle boat the 'lake police' came to turn us around siting 'the dangerous winds' which I must tell you I didn't feel a hair out of place or a ripple in the glasslike water, but this will be lodged in the official dangers of lakes in Italy - wind; 3) There are less attractive people at lakes than at the sea, even though there seem to be more sports happening at the lakes than the sea, hmmmmm; 4) Some of the lakes, particularly Martignano, have a lot of 'dangerous' hippies barbecuing.

You may not be able to tell in the photo cause I had to be covert, but there is an ambulance waiting on the lakes shores - that's how dangerous it is.

Laura - she didn't want to do it and told me there was no way she was swimming, but you know how bossy I am

And now look who's having a blast

Friends Save the Day: With all this stressful research and hilarious life situation, being with besties couldn't come at a better time. I've said it a million times, but I can't thank you guys enough for coming to visit me. This last week I got to see Wil and Allie on their whirlwind tour through Europe. I started to worry a few days before their arrival, since the temperatures were topping 40 and let's just say, Wil has the largest 'sensitivity to heat' of anyone I know.  I want to just say up front that if you're ever contemplating a trip to Italy, especially Rome, DO NOT COME IN AUGUST. Let me say it loud, and on repeat - DO NOT COME IN AUGUST. Rome is an amazing city eternally, but it will destroy you in August. It's hard to tie your shoes in 40 degrees, much less tour the Colosseum. Wil and Allie had planned five days in Rome, and upon arrival decided to cut it to two after a sweaty first morning running between the Vatican and the Spanish Steps. They weren't sure where to go on the fly for their 3 unplanned days, so I exiled them to Elba to take in the Mediterranean and slow down a bit (after first attempting to keep them in Rome by sending them to the always cool Catacombs = fail). As with all my visitors, I had big plans like feeding them the meatball sandwich I've finally discovered in my neighborhood, the KEYHOLE, but again the Trevi Fountain called. We spent two awesome nights catching up - on the Tiber one night initiating Allie to Grappa, and then one night executing the negotiating skillz I learned from Bob's visit (and now Africa) in Piazza Navona. Oh you want 5 euros for that dancing cat playing Shania Twain, I'll offer you 1. You offer me 2 for 7, I'll offer you 2 for 2 - and guess who won?? That's right, Wil and Allie are now the proud owners of flashing heart headbands and glowy slingshots - what better souvenirs from the eternal city? And speaking of besties, in one day I fly away to see a few more besties for a two week vacay in Portugal......

A few words about the characters joining this year's installment of AugVacayRidiculousness: 1) the repeat performer Steez. By now you should know her well so I don't need to say much, she journeyed to NZed and to Spain and Italy last year, and she never forgets to pack a good time or her NatGeo ability to navigate or best of all, her amazing biceps; 2) another repeat performer from NZed, Reba, known for her ability at accents, getting SkyWired, and white bikini; 3) and the late addition (joined the trip a week ago, yes she's also flying by the seat of her pants, hence why we get along so well) Fidz who you may remember from Ponza last year; she's known for her black magic which takes all forms from influencing the weather to turning her into Britney Spears while discussing hedge funds (I know, hard to get your head around).  And a few words about the destination - Portugal(s). Back in June when we were trying to decide where to go this year and when we determined that two of the team (unnamed) find Africa and Asia a hassle, we focused back on Europe and finding some place that had topless sunbathing and wine tasting within a close vicinity. We hemmed and hawwed between Portugal and Croatia, and finally decided Portugal probably had better ham and cheese and more castles (another requirement if you were reading last year). So there you go, this mess is about to unleash itself onto the shores and hill towns of Portugal in 12 hours. Get your ears ready for the destruction that we are about to do to the Portoguese language. Yes,  my resume says I speak it conversationally, when in fact I know how to ask for a table to be cleaned, so good news for our germs while eating.

And in case you were skimming this blog as I've heard, ahem, some of you have been doing -  running in flip-flops = never a good idea; 2) moving in a Mercedes = always a good idea

La Dolce Vita

When you find yourself unemployed in August in Italy - head to Sardegna with the bestest of hosts the Cadonis

The many grottos of Sardegna

The boat crew and also Paola's family's neighbors and lifelong friends. Thank you to Daniele for shepherding us around

The landscape of Sardegna is a bit of California but more rugged and with turquoiser waters

 

I'm on a boat off the coast of Sardegna, eating paninis with old people - am I in heaven???? Just to add to the heaven factor, Gianetto (Paola's dad) was ready for a panini at 10:30am, a man after my own heart. So while everyone else went snorkeling, I stayed on the boat with these dudes and enjoyed a delicious mortadella panini followed by a nap from the boat rocking me to sleep

Yes I am in fact in heaven

Paola's dad Gianetto with "Silvio" his name for the roasting pork

The eating was soooooo good with the Cadonis on Sardegna that I could barely contain myself

Grazie ancora Cadonis!!!!! (Grazia, Paola, e Gianetto)

I was so happy to return to Italy after Sierra Leone and take advantage of the best month of summer, and also have a bit of down time from the constant working in Sierra Leone. I didn't realize quite how well my wishes would be granted until August 1st when my contract ran out and I still didn't have a new one. The short story is that my bosses have filed the paperwork to renew me until December but HR is saying they've now changed the rules and can only offer me 70% of what I was making before - effective retroactively for my pay for June and July. So yes a big thank you present for working every weekend, sacrificing 5 weeks of summer, and risking my health in Sierra Leone. The only thing I could do was laugh. With no time to spare and my contract expiring, I rushed to have some medical treatments taken care of while I still had insurance and then started thinking about what I should do.......The only dilemma I have is there is still work to be done, so I've decided to work part-time (unpaid) and bank vacation days, and use the rest of my 50% to soak up summer.......and the Cadonis nicely agreed to host me, and oh did they host me.

I've been wanting to get to Sardegna since I arrived in Italy but hadn't managed it yet and then I met Paola who just happens to have parents from Sardegna and a house on the beach. In addition to her other awesome traits, this was seriously pushing her over the edge in terms of best Italian I know, and that was even before I met her family and fell in love. They are both adorable and wouldn't stop trying to feed me more. If I can take a few moments for the food on Sardegna, where do I begin, I think I'm still in a food coma - the desserts are mostly made with cheese (heaven again) and when I asked how to make this one ridiculous thing that is like a thin pancake stuffed with pecorino and fried and then topped with honey - you have to make the cheese! But I will figure out a way to at least try to replicate some of these things, otherwise I'm going to have to go back to Sardegna once a month for a fix -or maybe not since Paola's parents stocked me up with a kilo of pane al sardo (Sardinian bread) desserts, sausage, cheese, honey, and Mirto (the liquor of the Gods). Mirto is made from a berry that grows wild on Sardegna and is basically an after dinner liquor, but so much better than limoncello or grappa. I'm also trying to figure out how to make it........if only those wild berries were easier to hunt down in Rome. I basically spent the whole weekend eating, swimming, sunning, napping, chatting, and plotting how I could convince Paola to marry me or at least her parents to adopt me.

So while I've got some time on my hands, I've also now got time to fill you in on some of my latest cultural exploits and plans -

The bidet:  I have a confession. Even though I've lived here a year and a half now, I've never confronted it (other than that unforgettable night where an unnamed American friend confronted it in Venice years agoooo), nor felt comfortable enough (or remembered) to ask an Italian about it. Well, I've finally conducted a bit of research and can now shed a bit of light that maybe you already know but aren't talking about. First, most Italian homes have soap next to the bidet so it's not just a rinse, it's a wash. Second, almost all Italian homes have bidet towels next to the bidet for you to use after you wash. When I think about this now and how many times I've used the 'hand towel' hanging by the bidet cause I didn't see any others, it's no wonder I have a high tolerance for bacteria in Africa.
And now, I'm also left to think about what everyone was using when they came into my house and I only have 'hand towels' hanging..........And just in case you were wondering, I haven't conducted my own experiment yet on the merits of the bidet, but I will keep you posted as I'm sure you're on the edge of your seat

Laughter:  When I mentioned earlier that the only thing I could do was laugh after being offered 30% than I currently make, while you make think laughter is universal in all languages, it is not.  For example, in English what do we say - ha ha ha. Well in Italian it's ah ah ah, and in Spanish it's je je je, and in French it's hi hi hi. Sooooo ha ah, je hi and repeat

Mind games: As you know, I've now been gone 2.5 years and always been straddling two worlds between where I am and the U.S., because I've always thought the move was temporary.  Living in a constant state of temporary is not only exhausting but a bit limiting. While I'm keeping one foot in the U.S. and one foot here, it's no wonder I'm off balance. And of course as soon as I start to think one way or the other (staying or coming home), I think the other way.......so after saying this many times, I am going to use this extra time off to really think about these things - while on the beach or even better, conducting further research at a dangerous lake